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My daughter is about to be a year and a half soon, and it is amazing to see how much she has blossomed since the first day I held her in my arms. My mother likes to call her a “sponge,” in that she pretty much mimics everything I say or do in front of her. While I appreciate the power that she allows me to place in her life, I also acknowledge the hardships that come with this blessing. I am realizing more and more each day the responsibility I have in making sure she is given the proper understanding of this world.
Every word I say will echo in her small mind, so what I speak and do are undoubtedly important. I was watching TV the other day, and I kept hearing the “B” word being thrown around like it was part of our everyday vocabulary. I thought of my daughter and wondered how often she is going to hear this word as she grows up, and how much it will affect her. It is truly amazing to watch the world unfold before me and analyze just how badly things have become. I constantly try my hardest to surround my daughter in love, but it is inevitable for her to one day understand that the world outside of me is not all love; it is full of men and women who deem the “B” word acceptable.
Problem: Entertainment vs. Reality
We find ways to laugh off our materialistic and shallow-hearted society. How, you ask? By swearing on our souls that we will never accept somebody verbally degrading us, but have no problem referring to other people with these same words. We would never want someone to call us the “B” word, or have anyone close to us be labeled that, but the meaning of this word changes when we direct it at someone else. Media and entertainment sources have only added to this horrible trend, and we are being brainwashed every time we turn to these outlets.
Society may find it ‘thrilling’ to hear the “B” word being thrown around in front of a dope, hard-hitting hip-hop beat, but I would much rather be addressed as something else. And even though many albums and TV shows find success from this word, I would much rather be known as something that is a little bit more respectful.
I have an issue with being called something that I am not, and I have an even bigger issue with society deeming it okay for the sake of entertainment. Little do we know that entertainment is not really all fun and games. It messes with our self-worth, our value, and our reputation. And since we allow this word to be thrown around like it is a piece of trash heading for the garbage can, we start identifying ourselves with it. Suddenly it latches on to everything a woman says or does; the way she dresses, the people she hangs out with, the men she dates, etc. And for the men, they start using this word all too frequently. The littlest sign of imperfection from a female can cause a man to label her the B word.
Who God wants us to be
It is time to set a new trend that will benefit the beauty inside of us. Women need to embrace the goodness that God created in them and use that to define them. We are so caught up in popularity and “fitting in,” but are these things worth compromising the self-worth that truly empowers us? We have to realize that gaining respect and taking a stand can change our whole outlook on the world. Some women are desperately seeking love because they hardly believe they are worth much, and the B word compliments these sad thoughts. Men need to value their women and love them unconditionally, seeing them the way God sees them. Men also have to decrease the level of importance that they place on their “homies,” and how “hard” they want to look to them. It is a must to remember that women are not numbers on a scoring card or walking targets ready to be demoralized.
Ladies, “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” – 1 Peter 3:3-4
It can get no more simplistic than this; we need to live based off of how we want to be treated. There can no longer be conflicts of interest in our ways of living. As a mother now, I am learning to understand that following up on words that I preach to my daughter will stay with her forever. I cannot be a hypocrite to her, because she looks up to me and seeks my guidance in everything that she does. And even if we are not all mothers or parents, we have to live as if children are always looking at us. We are the windows to their future. If we continue to dance around this “B” word, then these kids will grow up carrying our same mentalities and will soon enough be using this word. Let’s start putting less value on entertainment and more value on reality.
“And Peter said to them, ‘Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. For the promise is for you and for your children and for all who are far off, everyone whom the Lord our God calls to himself.’ And with many other words he bore witness and continued to exhort them, saying, ‘Save yourselves from this crooked generation.” – Act 2:38-40.
Do you get offended by hearing the “B” word addressed to you, a friend, family member or anyone else in general? Do you think the word needs to be retired? As a society, have we become so immune to it that it doesn’t ‘faze’ us?